Surviving Fights
Yes fights happen honestly the best advice is to drop it and forget the fight ever happened,but if you get into big fights everyweek and it causes you constant stress,so much stress that you have trouble sleeping or concentrating on simple tasks, that friend may not be worth it.
Here are some to ease your way out of a fight with your friend:
Ask why your friend is angry.
Go straight to your friend or call them, talk him or her, and just ask straight out what it was that made him or her angry. If you are the one that is mad at the other person, sit down and figure out why you got into the fight in the first place. Boys? Grades? Sports? Find the reason
Offer a solution.
If your friend is not wanting to bounce back and forgive you, take things into your own hands and find a solution yourself. Some schools have peer mediation programs but don't get each other in any more trouble than your in. If it is becoming a real problem, consider asking your teacher for a guidance counselor/peer mediation referral. Peer mediators and guidance counselors are there to help! If you don't think it needs intervention from someone else, consider ways you could help the process: offer not to go out for the same part in the school play that your friend wants, take him or her some cookies as a peace offering - be creative. Anything that gets the two of you talking again is a good thing
Fall on your sword.
Go to your best friend, say you're sorry (yes, you! Take the initiative here), and offer no defenses, even if your friend yells at you. Allowing your friend to vent his or her anger to you without defending yourself will give your friend time to blow off the steam and get over it. Once s/he's done that, the two of you can hug, cry, and say goodbye to the rift between you. It's likely that your friend will admire your independent thinking and forgive you
Apologize sincerely.
Just saying "I'm sorry" is often the end of the argument. But make sure you really are sincere, or you will be seen as BS-ing and you won't be believed at that moment, or again in the future
Don't be afraid to be real.
It's okay to cry, it gets the emotions out and makes you feel a lot better
Talk about it.
Let your friend let out his or her anger. Even if you have already accepted responsibility for at least part of the problem, apologized, and agreed to leave the fight behind, both of you may have some leftover feelings of anger or resentment. That's okay. Just talk it out, but remember to be kind and gentle as you do, and don't get mad all over again
Tricks and tips
~When you apologize, don't start out with, "Well even though it was your fault..." First of all, that's not an apology - that's an accusation and an invitation to Round 2. It's very likely to rekindle the argument and make your friend angry, and the chances of resolving the fight quickly will drop dramatically.
~If you really don't want to fight over this issue again, try not to discuss it! If it comes up in conversation, it could just as likely come up again in a disagreement!
~If you know that your best friend gets really worked up over certain things, like sports or grades, don't rub it in his or her face when you do better than they do in any of those situations. Just congratulate your friend for trying, and if s/he asks how you did, then politely share your victory. It's likely that s/he will be happy for you, and pleased to celebrate your win!
~You need to put your best friend first if she or he is the one upset. Don't blame yourself or your friend. Try to get things sorted out, and that might help.
~Always be completely honest. If you have a problem, carefully talk it over. Holding it in and letting it out when you're angry will only cause another fight.
~You shouldn't be the one to say sorry everytime. If you feel that your friend never apologises then the next time you have a fight don't take the initiative.
Here are some to ease your way out of a fight with your friend:
Ask why your friend is angry.
Go straight to your friend or call them, talk him or her, and just ask straight out what it was that made him or her angry. If you are the one that is mad at the other person, sit down and figure out why you got into the fight in the first place. Boys? Grades? Sports? Find the reason
Offer a solution.
If your friend is not wanting to bounce back and forgive you, take things into your own hands and find a solution yourself. Some schools have peer mediation programs but don't get each other in any more trouble than your in. If it is becoming a real problem, consider asking your teacher for a guidance counselor/peer mediation referral. Peer mediators and guidance counselors are there to help! If you don't think it needs intervention from someone else, consider ways you could help the process: offer not to go out for the same part in the school play that your friend wants, take him or her some cookies as a peace offering - be creative. Anything that gets the two of you talking again is a good thing
Fall on your sword.
Go to your best friend, say you're sorry (yes, you! Take the initiative here), and offer no defenses, even if your friend yells at you. Allowing your friend to vent his or her anger to you without defending yourself will give your friend time to blow off the steam and get over it. Once s/he's done that, the two of you can hug, cry, and say goodbye to the rift between you. It's likely that your friend will admire your independent thinking and forgive you
Apologize sincerely.
Just saying "I'm sorry" is often the end of the argument. But make sure you really are sincere, or you will be seen as BS-ing and you won't be believed at that moment, or again in the future
Don't be afraid to be real.
It's okay to cry, it gets the emotions out and makes you feel a lot better
Talk about it.
Let your friend let out his or her anger. Even if you have already accepted responsibility for at least part of the problem, apologized, and agreed to leave the fight behind, both of you may have some leftover feelings of anger or resentment. That's okay. Just talk it out, but remember to be kind and gentle as you do, and don't get mad all over again
Tricks and tips
~When you apologize, don't start out with, "Well even though it was your fault..." First of all, that's not an apology - that's an accusation and an invitation to Round 2. It's very likely to rekindle the argument and make your friend angry, and the chances of resolving the fight quickly will drop dramatically.
~If you really don't want to fight over this issue again, try not to discuss it! If it comes up in conversation, it could just as likely come up again in a disagreement!
~If you know that your best friend gets really worked up over certain things, like sports or grades, don't rub it in his or her face when you do better than they do in any of those situations. Just congratulate your friend for trying, and if s/he asks how you did, then politely share your victory. It's likely that s/he will be happy for you, and pleased to celebrate your win!
~You need to put your best friend first if she or he is the one upset. Don't blame yourself or your friend. Try to get things sorted out, and that might help.
~Always be completely honest. If you have a problem, carefully talk it over. Holding it in and letting it out when you're angry will only cause another fight.
~You shouldn't be the one to say sorry everytime. If you feel that your friend never apologises then the next time you have a fight don't take the initiative.